Comments on: Altitude

By: Cynthia Occelli

Cynthia Occelli — Sun, 27 Mar 2011 15:56:26 +0000

In reply to Jean.

Jean – Your comment really strikes me as progress, even though it doesn’t feel that way. You seem ready for real connection. You won’t be sated with mindless, falsities. You’re ready to connect on an intimate and deep level. I completely understand and support that shift. I’ve made it myself. I tend to no empty relationships these days. I have an abundance of true, sustaining connections. You can have that too, it begins with being it and not expecting it from existing people in your life. Make way for new people who will naturally be drawn to your new output. Cast the image you’d like reflected. Something wonderful is seeking to emerge.

Bless you,

By: Cynthia Occelli

Cynthia Occelli — Sun, 27 Mar 2011 15:56:26 +0000

In reply to Jo Canfield.

Bless you,

By: Jean

Jean — Sat, 26 Mar 2011 18:58:11 +0000

I don't say this to find fault with what you are saying; it is very true. The thing is whenever I find myself becoming upset about small mishaps like the examples you gave I have learned that my anger or frustration points towards a larger issue.
Without giving all the details of my life up to this point I have learned that whenever I get upset over small issues that aren't working out the way I would like it is a tiny mirror to the frustration I have with larger areas of my life like challenging relationships in the home or on the job that cause me to feel unloved, uninspired and unappreciated.
I am 44 years old and at this point in my life, I feel the weight of my life–the hardships, difficulties, disappointments and loneliness–more than I ever felt it before. At the same time there has been a lot I have learned about myself and I have grown a lot in the last fifteen to twenty years.
The weight I feel most often is not feeling a true connection to anyone whether that is my parents, siblings, co-workers, etc. Interactions just seem so superficial.
You talk about things like the weather or something you watched on television last night or you laugh about things but those "real" deeper things are something I (and others) have a tendency to keep hidden simply for the reason of self-preservation. Due to my experiences, being too open is not something I believe is a good thing.
I have gone done that road of learning to love myself and I think that is wonderful but what is difficult for me is the fact that love is not a one-way street. I need to love as well as be loved. I need to trust as well as be trusted. I need to share as well as let someone share with me.
I did not walk into the world believing that life could be so painful so often. No one really prepares you for it. I say all of this to say that in those moments that we feel frustrated or angry about little things it probably points to something much bigger weighing on the heart and the mind.
Thanks for your blog and for reading this.

By: Cynthia Occelli

Cynthia Occelli — Thu, 17 Mar 2011 15:33:25 +0000

In reply to Corinne Rodrigues. Yes! Not always the first thing that comes to mind, but life is so much more pleasant when we remember this.

By: Corinne Rodrigues

Corinne Rodrigues — Tue, 15 Mar 2011 11:59:52 +0000

Yes, examining what's bothering us to see whether it will be important in the future, is a great tip. Most times it doesn't matter at all.
Thanks Cynthia!