Comments on: Are you a Hypocrite? Here’s why you probably are.

By: Cynthia Occelli

Cynthia Occelli — Tue, 03 Mar 2020 17:03:43 +0000

In reply to Deanie Haynes. How about: THIS IS THE DAY OR THE WEEK? Don't think about it, just take the actions necessary and show up.

By: Deanie Haynes

Deanie Haynes — Tue, 03 Mar 2020 16:54:50 +0000

I have neglected my health requirements for years now. I always have time for others and won’t give myself the self-love that it requires to make the doctor’s appointments and show up. This is the year.

By: Sharon

Sharon — Sat, 28 Jun 2014 12:45:00 +0000

I would do less of turning over the past, and more of loving myself.

By: Peggy Graber

Peggy Graber — Sat, 28 Jun 2014 11:14:00 +0000

Very true. I understand. We want to be strong and get rid of our issues

By: Butterfly

Butterfly — Fri, 27 Jun 2014 17:47:00 +0000

I found myself in exactly the same situation as Leah I made a decision to be congruent with my beliefs and values equally to myself as I am towards others but it did take a few try’s to stop berating my body for its illness BUT it can be done and now I am less stressed and more proactive to my own personal needs … it works and I manage my illness along with the rest of my life so much easier … go with the flow peeps get the most and the best out of yourself whatever that maybe for you x

By: elizabeth peterson

elizabeth peterson — Fri, 10 Jan 2014 08:25:00 +0000

I have been aware of this trait in myself this week, and am doing something about it now. After seeing to my family and their needs for the last month, Monday I’m taking my self to a week at a friend’s apartment on the beach for a week on my own while she goes on holiday. Guess what…it’s also a holiday for me. Good on you, Cynthia for posting and writing this.

By: Lala

Lala — Thu, 09 Jan 2014 18:39:00 +0000

I just on my frig and mirror, I love myself more. For some reason after Christmas my soul finally let me know that I wasn’t going to be “Leah” any longer. My health and most of all my soul comes first. For generations we are taught to take care of someone else first..thank you for the great article. It came just at the right time!!!!

By: Jackie

Jackie — Sun, 24 Nov 2013 04:34:00 +0000

I need to stop thinking that I deserve less then everyone else.

By: CJ

CJ — Wed, 20 Nov 2013 19:59:00 +0000

t osA week ago my dysfunctional mother, who had recently become homeless, came to stay with me, my partner, and our 10 y.o. son…it’s been hell. She is bipolar, manic, narcissistic, and has the early signs of dementia – and it is self-inflicted through decades of substance abuse, unhealthy eating, gambling addiction, smoking, watching soap operas, etc. She and my step-father had been married for 35 yrs., but divorced a couple of years ago. She has 3 healthy, functional adult children (I’m the oldest), and 6 wonderful grandchildren…but, she is so toxic, and such a bully that no one can deal with her. So, last night she left…and, although I know the saga is far from over, I am relieved that she isn’t here!! Any advice appreciated!

By: Amanda

Amanda — Tue, 19 Nov 2013 13:31:00 +0000

In reply to ResurrectingVenus. Thank you, sure am trying. (;

By: Amanda

Amanda — Tue, 19 Nov 2013 13:30:00 +0000

In reply to Muzamba. Amanda Thank you so much for your support. I am trying to be patient with myself to change my situation and get back on to the spiritual path I seemingly strayed from over time. This is my start right here right now, this website and Cynthia is amazing and i know with all this imspiration and support here i will be were I want to be. Thank you stay in touch.

By: Julie

Julie — Tue, 19 Nov 2013 02:09:00 +0000

I feel I am perfectionistic with myself while having so much compassion for others. This article hit home. Thank you!

By: Muzamba

Muzamba — Mon, 18 Nov 2013 18:45:00 +0000

In reply to Amanda. Amanda you are not alone! There are a lot of women going through varying situations where we find ourselves giving out extreme care on a regular basis. I found I had to carve time out for myself in order to fit in my self care (myself care! Interesting connection) . I wake up extra early on Thursdays so that in between taking my husband to work and dropping my daughters off at school, there is an hour in there from 630 am to 730 am where I go to my church and attend a women's Bible study group! They are a fabulous group of women, and like me are caring and nurturing moms, girlfriends, daughters and wives but once a week, we go to that Bible study and it is something that we do for our own Spiritual growth. It is fantastic to be able to do that and it opens up more ways you can start to take your life back. We discuss hobbies and ways to get together to pursue them (more time back) we discuss solutions to difficult situations (solving our challenges by leaning on wisdom from others - reaching out). I hope you can find resources where you are and join a group of women going through similar experiences and if not, look for a group online. Research more about what is going on with your body and health then make the time to follow the recommendations so that you can be fully present, energized and ready to continue on the amazing journey that is life. You can always contact me too if you just need a friend to talk to. We can remind each other to be more self nurturing! In my opinion, Cynthia is the best thing since sliced bread and we found her because we were searching for a better way. Thank you Cynthia for listening and carrying out what was put in your heart to do!

By: Muzamba

Muzamba — Mon, 18 Nov 2013 18:28:00 +0000

Wow Cynthia this is so profound! I am actually home and sick! I have been, all weekend and ignored it until I lost my voice today. I caught this bug from my students and for the last two weeks I have been making them continuous cups of hot tea. They are all better and this morning it occurred to me to do the same for myself. It felt very strange, taking care of and nurturing myself but once I started doing that, my fever finally broke and I am getting my strength back. It really is important, no imperative that we love on ourselves deeply first so that we have enough strength to turn around and continue nurturing and loving others. It is very hard to do at first but once you get over the guilt, it starts to feel right and hopefully like me, will resolve to continue doing so for the rest of your life. Be patient it takes time before it actually feels right! Much love to all of you!

By: ResurrectingVenus

ResurrectingVenus — Mon, 18 Nov 2013 16:40:00 +0000

In reply to Amanda. This looks like an excellent recipe for self-care. Put it where you can see it and acknowledge yourself for the heavy load you're carrying. Hugs to you, Amanda.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Mon, 18 Nov 2013 16:23:00 +0000

I need to be less critical of myself and learn to stop hiding my pain emotionally and physically. I need to be there for me, forgive myself, accept that I need to love myself and care for my health all of the time. This article was amazing and I will be trying, thinking of myself as someone else and how I’d be there to help them any way possible. I have a son who’s on the Autism Spectrum as well as other delays and its hard to keep up with my emotions and health problems that can be debilitating and painful. I loose myself in bouts of anxiety and depression I find difficult to get out of. So thank you for your article.

By: Brenda Lance

Brenda Lance — Mon, 18 Nov 2013 15:38:00 +0000

In reply to ResurrectingVenus. Thanks for your encouragement and your articles. They are very helpful.

By: ResurrectingVenus

ResurrectingVenus — Mon, 18 Nov 2013 15:34:00 +0000

In reply to Cynthia. To me the choice to put yourself at the top of your priority list is part of your healing from what ails you. See your doctor, follow good health habits, and LOVE yourself. To your health!

By: ResurrectingVenus

ResurrectingVenus — Mon, 18 Nov 2013 15:34:00 +0000

In reply to deb w. I support you deb!

By: ResurrectingVenus

ResurrectingVenus — Mon, 18 Nov 2013 15:32:00 +0000

In reply to Brenda Lance. Brenda Lance, when you catch yourself being less than lovely to yourself, just smile and let it go. Follow it with a question like: what have I/what do I do well? In time there'll be a shift. You deserve this. Love to you.