Comments on: Detox the Mind, Part Three

By: Cynthia Occelli

Cynthia Occelli — Thu, 26 Aug 2010 05:19:24 +0000

Hi LionGirl:It's really nice to see you again. I think you do a very successful job of expressing yourself and inspiring others. After all, that is how we met :)Cynthia

By: Cynthia Occelli

Cynthia Occelli — Thu, 26 Aug 2010 05:17:47 +0000

Hello Cormel:Thank you. It is wonderful to have a forum to share.Cynthia

By: LionGirl

LionGirl — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 09:56:55 +0000

Cynthia, I am so proud of you and what you have became. And now, you are able to inspire so many with your experiences and your wisdom. This is truly a wonderful blog. Though I share most of your thoughts, I could not have said it better. Thanks.

By: Cormel

Cormel — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 15:50:14 +0000

This is a good blog. Keep up all the work. I too love blogging and expressing my opinions. Thanks 🙂

By: Cynthia Occelli

Cynthia Occelli — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 04:18:27 +0000

Lawson:What a treat to find you here! Weeks ago, I became a follower of yours on HuffPost after reading your comments on Anne Naylor and Judith Rich's blogs. You are a phenomenal advocate for families and children. Most recently, you made the following comment and its been rolling around in my head:"How people interact is a reflection of form; whether they maintain integrity reflects substance."Substance. That's what matters. I have done my best to mother under the WYSIWYG (what you see is what you get) principle. I am an engaged communicator and share the best of what I know, but I am keenly aware that lest I walk the talk, it's all puffery.I completely agree with and have experienced the inter-generational effects negative emotions and beliefs have on children and grandchildren. I am descended of 3 teenage mothers who felt that life must be a struggle and every positive thing is hard won. I was the fourth.My greatest achievement is transcending that cycle so my daughter has a different view and experience.I'm reading your writings and gleaning so much. Thank you.Be well,Cynthia

By: Cynthia Occelli

Cynthia Occelli — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 04:05:38 +0000

AfinesenArt:I love having YOU here.Cynthia

By: Lawson Meadows

Lawson Meadows — Mon, 23 Aug 2010 09:22:58 +0000

Dear Cynthia,My first visit to your site; I was pleasantly rewarded: read the three “Detox” installments, and your post in BlogHer: nice work, nice words!Ideas I particularly liked: “Embracing and letting go of limiting beliefs is the single greatest step we can take toward the realization of our destiny.”, and your view of the effects of “beliefs”, dovetail with my views on inter-generational family dynamics and the perpetuation of personal limits driven by cycles of baseless ignorance, bias, prejudice, and fear (whew!). When parents address “limiting beliefs”, not only can they advance toward their destiny, but, will affect more self-supportive beliefs in their children. Kids may not at first know their destiny, (I call it passion), but, they can begin their journey toward its discovery less encumbered by self-doubt and fear, when parents do the same.I know you said identifying the problem’s source was not as important as the doing something about it… I agree, once the “toxins” are implanted. However, though parental behavior is but one of a limited number of important influences in a child’s “process of discovery”, it can be pivotal in the establishment and growth of the character of a child’s view of “self” potentials, like confidence, respect, reliance, control, love, et al.As you said, in life, there will always be challenges: some obvious, some not so much. But, the better the base, the stronger the wall.I believe a paraphrase of some Mark Twain wisdom applies: "What we don't know cannot harm us nearly as much as what we are sure of, which is wrong!" And, I believe we have stumbled back to your point: Beliefs which limit are toxic and wrong; therein is the harm.Thanks for the words, the wisdom, and the way!Lawson Meadows

By: AnfinsenArt

AnfinsenArt — Sat, 21 Aug 2010 22:11:21 +0000

So true! I am my own worst enemey. Love reading your blogs.