Comments on: Here’s How to Handle Life After Loss

By: Nicole

Nicole — Wed, 22 Apr 2020 16:54:39 +0000

My Mother passed away on April 6th. Our relationship was challenging at times due to my Mother’s emotional unavailability. I grew up feeling rejected. My Mother was diagnosed with cancer in 2016. We had some moments of not speaking after that, but I asked God to help me past my resentment. I didn’t want my Mother to pass without being in contact with her. I wanted to see her for all that she was, and not just through my lens (which may have been clouded to an extent due to my pain). We were doing very well at the time of her passing. I know that my Mother definitely loved me, as evidenced by how often she showed up for me and my children. I realized that she was a product of her life’s experiences. I’m having a hard time (which I guess is to be expected). I used to speak to my Mother almost every day, several times a day. I’ve wanted to call her several times since her passing, and the realization that I can’t sends a sharp pain. I did a search in my emails for “Cynthia Occelli and grief” and found some older podcasts and messages. Thank you for all that you do.

By: ResurrectingVenus

ResurrectingVenus — Fri, 07 Mar 2014 19:00:00 +0000

In reply to marie shaw. Marie, didn't it just seem so impossible that you'd ever feel a smile in your heart again? For me, that was so hard. Life seemed so hopeless, purposeless . . . thank goodness we held on. Big hugs to you. I am very sorry for your loss and joyful for what you've found. <3

By: ResurrectingVenus

ResurrectingVenus — Fri, 07 Mar 2014 19:00:00 +0000

In reply to Elizabeth peterson. You're so beautiful Elizabeth <3

By: marie shaw

marie shaw — Fri, 07 Mar 2014 08:58:00 +0000

I love when you say “life will never be the same again but it can be good again” I lost my mother 5 years ago this coming May and I felt every single thing you talked about there…I never would have believed that I would see land and eventually I did!! Life really is change and I am still learning to flow with that change and while doing that I’m learning to love myself also….Thank you for all that you do its beautiful xxxx

By: Elizabeth peterson

Elizabeth peterson — Sat, 01 Feb 2014 10:01:00 +0000

I remember you sending me this and I went through and still seem to be going through some remembering. But I relate to all you say, and thank you for it always. Time is helping, family is helping, and life goes on. The trick is…will I go on as well. The answer is always yes I will.

By: ResurrectingVenus

ResurrectingVenus — Fri, 01 Mar 2013 00:39:00 +0000

In reply to Roshnee. Roshnee – I am so so sorry. You are right, your life will never be the same. It can be good again though. Just let this be a possibility. You are in the midst of such grief and I wish I could give you a hug. Please be sure you’re connecting with someone you can talk about this with. Don’t go it alone. I’m sending you love.

By: ResurrectingVenus

ResurrectingVenus — Fri, 01 Mar 2013 00:39:00 +0000

In reply to Cynthia La Cour-Walker. Oh Cynthia, this is tragic and the tragedy continues. I strongly recommend reaching out for more help, both with caregiving and with your feelings. A support group would be wonderful. You are spot on with this statement: “I see now how important it is for caregivers to take excellent care of themselves and not feel guilty about it.” Please make this a priority. I am sending you much love and hugs.

By: ResurrectingVenus

ResurrectingVenus — Fri, 01 Mar 2013 00:39:00 +0000

In reply to Ruth. Don’t give up. You yourself are a TREASURE Ruth.

By: Cynthia

Cynthia — Fri, 01 Mar 2013 00:25:32 +0000

In reply to Ruth. Don't give up. You yourself are a TREASURE Ruth.

By: Cynthia

Cynthia — Fri, 01 Mar 2013 00:24:50 +0000

In reply to Roshnee.

Roshnee – I am so so sorry. You are right, your life will never be the same. It can be good again though. Just let this be a possibility. You are in the midst of such grief and I wish I could give you a hug. Please be sure you’re connecting with someone you can talk about this with. Don’t go it alone. I’m sending you love.

By: Cynthia

Cynthia — Fri, 01 Mar 2013 00:22:08 +0000

In reply to Cynthia La Cour-Walker. Oh Cynthia, this is tragic and the tragedy continues. I strongly recommend reaching out for more help, both with caregiving and with your feelings. A support group would be wonderful. You are spot on with this statement: "I see now how important it is for caregivers to take excellent care of themselves and not feel guilty about it." Please make this a priority. I am sending you much love and hugs.

By: Cynthia La Cour-Walker

Cynthia La Cour-Walker — Thu, 21 Feb 2013 23:15:00 +0000

My daughter had several brain injuries due to many V/P shunt surgeries. She was a full time student in college, & working 30 hrs weekly.She suffered tremendous amounts of pain & was close to death. She pulled through, but was unable to talk, walk, & had short term memory. Her personality changed. She was mean spirited. The pain of losing my daughter was unbearable. I was so angry and God, & the Drs. She was hospitalized for 5 months! .I am still dealing with grief, but don’t have anytime to myself. She is doing much better, but still needs care 24hrs/7 days a week. My husband and I rotate shifts with her and no other help.Most of what I am feeling is helplessness,sadness and anger. Thank you for these articles & and the great guidance and suggestions. I know how important it is to release these emotions or they will manifest into a disease. I see now how important it is for caregivers to take excellent care of themselves and not feel guilty about it.

By: Roshnee

Roshnee — Thu, 21 Feb 2013 16:26:00 +0000

Wow…this speaks volumes to me.
I just lost my mom in October…to a cruel and devastating disease
Lou Gherigs…aka ALS…so many intense emotions…she was my everything…my life will never be the same agaIn…

By: Ruth

Ruth — Thu, 21 Feb 2013 15:56:00 +0000

It’s been three years and I’m still in the midst of it. Not just one thing, but many hardships have occurred. I’ve lost-almost everything-except for myself. I’m still struggling, trying to have hope and move forward, but it is still difficult. I long for…relief.