Comments on: Toxic people causing you grief? Here’s what you need to know. https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/how-to-handle-toxic-people/ Empower. Inspire. Heal. Thu, 06 Jan 2022 04:41:14 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0 By: Sharon https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/how-to-handle-toxic-people/#comment-2101 Thu, 12 Jun 2014 00:08:00 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=5133#comment-2101 Ok, Cynthia lol I love this 🙂 And I laughed the whole way through, bless them 😉 I’m tired of the ward lol HA

]]> By: Heather Whitaker https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/how-to-handle-toxic-people/#comment-2100 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 12:12:00 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=5133#comment-2100 In reply to Debbie.

Forgiveness will free you. You forgive because you would want forgiveness if you hurt someone. Doing the right thing is always right. Sometimes doors are closed to those around us to protect us. Sometimes distance between us and those we love is just what is needed. This is a learning and growing experience for you. All you can do is pray and know that all things will be worked out for your good.

]]> By: Janice E https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/how-to-handle-toxic-people/#comment-2099 Sun, 13 Jan 2013 09:32:00 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=5133#comment-2099 In reply to LIFE by Cynthia Occelli.

Thank you so much for the phase ‘We all take our turn in the ward.’ I have spent years trying to forgive myself for behaving very badly in my first marrige – I can’t take back the hurt I caused; but if I understand it as part of a broken part of myself that needed healing …

]]> By: Debbie https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/how-to-handle-toxic-people/#comment-2091 Fri, 03 Aug 2012 14:06:00 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=5133#comment-2091 Never apologizing, and being rude to me. I have held my own, but am now feeling somewhat alienated by events that take place. I no longer feel comfortable in my living situation-and have been told to just ignore and forget about all that she did and Said. I was told that maybe I am the “toxic” person. As I am not apologizing and allowing myself to live in unforgiveness. The fact is that I believe I am owed an apology for the humiliation that she caused me. I don’t hate her, but at the same time I don’t want her to be a part of my life. Is that wrong? Am I being a toxic person? Should I let it go an continue to put up with the disrespect?

]]> By: Debbie https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/how-to-handle-toxic-people/#comment-2098 Fri, 03 Aug 2012 14:06:00 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=5133#comment-2098 Never apologizing, and being rude to me. I have held my own, but am now feeling somewhat alienated by events that take place. I no longer feel comfortable in my living situation-and have been told to just ignore and forget about all that she did and Said. I was told that maybe I am the “toxic” person. As I am not apologizing and allowing myself to live in unforgiveness. The fact is that I believe I am owed an apology for the humiliation that she caused me. I don’t hate her, but at the same time I don’t want her to be a part of my life. Is that wrong? Am I being a toxic person? Should I let it go an continue to put up with the disrespect?

]]> By: Debbie https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/how-to-handle-toxic-people/#comment-2089 Fri, 03 Aug 2012 13:56:00 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=5133#comment-2089 Cynthia,
I am currently dealing with a situation much as the one that you described. This person said some extremely cruel and hurtful things to me about 2 months ago. In my entire life I have never encountered such blatant rudeness. For the first time in my life I did not respond~I did not apologize for doing what I felt was right. I did not apologize for being me. I didn’t cry and beg for forgiveness for something I never did. However, since that time she has made my life very uncomfortable. She has convinced others that Ahe is the victim. However they know who she is and just go along with it to avoid any upset. Playing like nothing has happened

]]> By: Debbie https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/how-to-handle-toxic-people/#comment-2097 Fri, 03 Aug 2012 13:56:00 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=5133#comment-2097 Cynthia,
I am currently dealing with a situation much as the one that you described. This person said some extremely cruel and hurtful things to me about 2 months ago. In my entire life I have never encountered such blatant rudeness. For the first time in my life I did not respond~I did not apologize for doing what I felt was right. I did not apologize for being me. I didn’t cry and beg for forgiveness for something I never did. However, since that time she has made my life very uncomfortable. She has convinced others that Ahe is the victim. However they know who she is and just go along with it to avoid any upset. Playing like nothing has happened

]]> By: LIFE by Cynthia Occelli https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/how-to-handle-toxic-people/#comment-2086 Fri, 03 Aug 2012 05:46:56 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=5133#comment-2086 Carol Stapleton – We all take our turn in the ward 🙂 We all have times when we were raw, could have done better or were unconscious. Becoming more self aware, standing in other’s shoes and thinking before we speak helps A LOT. Also, working on ourselves: healing, forgiving, accepting our right to live the way we want to helps a great deal, too. And then there are times that we just mess up. In those situations taking responsibility when we recognize our toxic behavior, making amends or remedying it to the best of our ability, learning the lesson, and forgiving ourselves is the solution. No one is perfect and the same detachment and compassion we give to the “insane” we must give to ourselves. Love to you!

]]> By: LIFE by Cynthia Occelli https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/how-to-handle-toxic-people/#comment-2096 Fri, 03 Aug 2012 05:46:56 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=5133#comment-2096 Carol Stapleton – We all take our turn in the ward 🙂 We all have times when we were raw, could have done better or were unconscious. Becoming more self aware, standing in other’s shoes and thinking before we speak helps A LOT. Also, working on ourselves: healing, forgiving, accepting our right to live the way we want to helps a great deal, too. And then there are times that we just mess up. In those situations taking responsibility when we recognize our toxic behavior, making amends or remedying it to the best of our ability, learning the lesson, and forgiving ourselves is the solution. No one is perfect and the same detachment and compassion we give to the “insane” we must give to ourselves. Love to you!

]]> By: LIFE by Cynthia Occelli https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/how-to-handle-toxic-people/#comment-2085 Fri, 03 Aug 2012 02:47:09 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=5133#comment-2085 Don Gander – if you feel better making the distinction and calling it “people who behave in a toxic manner” by all means. The intention is not to shame, it is to help others cope with life’s challenging situations. You will see what you choose to see.

]]> By: LIFE by Cynthia Occelli https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/how-to-handle-toxic-people/#comment-2095 Fri, 03 Aug 2012 02:47:09 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=5133#comment-2095 Don Gander – if you feel better making the distinction and calling it “people who behave in a toxic manner” by all means. The intention is not to shame, it is to help others cope with life’s challenging situations. You will see what you choose to see.

]]> By: Don Gander https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/how-to-handle-toxic-people/#comment-2084 Fri, 03 Aug 2012 02:25:55 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=5133#comment-2084 What kind of individual would consider another individual to be a “toxic” person?

]]> By: Don Gander https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/how-to-handle-toxic-people/#comment-2094 Fri, 03 Aug 2012 02:25:55 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=5133#comment-2094 What kind of individual would consider another individual to be a “toxic” person?

]]> By: Debi Miller https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/how-to-handle-toxic-people/#comment-2083 Fri, 03 Aug 2012 01:14:28 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=5133#comment-2083 Wow. Did I need this today! You always speak to what I need to hear. Again, thank you.

]]> By: Debi Miller https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/how-to-handle-toxic-people/#comment-2093 Fri, 03 Aug 2012 01:14:28 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=5133#comment-2093 Wow. Did I need this today! You always speak to what I need to hear. Again, thank you.

]]> By: Carol Stapleton https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/how-to-handle-toxic-people/#comment-2082 Fri, 03 Aug 2012 00:58:41 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=5133#comment-2082 interesting technique lady … Next question how to identify when you’re behaving like a “toxic” person? I find that on occasions by the time I realize my actions aren’t mine or I’ve spewed some verbal diahrea it’s too late … then I have to eat crow and own up for my actions … it would be easier to head it off before I’m at the eating crow stage 😉 lol

]]> By: Carol Stapleton https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/how-to-handle-toxic-people/#comment-2092 Fri, 03 Aug 2012 00:58:41 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=5133#comment-2092 interesting technique lady … Next question how to identify when you’re behaving like a “toxic” person? I find that on occasions by the time I realize my actions aren’t mine or I’ve spewed some verbal diahrea it’s too late … then I have to eat crow and own up for my actions … it would be easier to head it off before I’m at the eating crow stage 😉 lol

]]> By: Cindy Gillick https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/how-to-handle-toxic-people/#comment-2081 Fri, 03 Aug 2012 00:42:57 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=5133#comment-2081 You are always right on time with your words. Thank you!

]]> By: Cindy Gillick https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/how-to-handle-toxic-people/#comment-2090 Fri, 03 Aug 2012 00:42:57 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=5133#comment-2090 You are always right on time with your words. Thank you!

]]> By: Sandra Beaubien https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/how-to-handle-toxic-people/#comment-2080 Fri, 03 Aug 2012 00:28:24 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=5133#comment-2080 a good viewpoint, right when I can use it~thanks!

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