Comments on: The power of NO and how to use it

By: Jolie

Jolie — Sun, 16 Mar 2014 06:38:00 +0000

I’m working on this. I have a hard time saying no to people, but when I need something there isn’t anyone to help me usually. I think it is Danielle LaPorte that says if it isn’t a hell yes then it is a no:)

By: Luiza

Luiza — Thu, 05 Dec 2013 11:45:00 +0000

In reply to Luiza. ha! I did it by joining Disqus :)

By: Luiza

Luiza — Thu, 05 Dec 2013 11:44:00 +0000

Hello Ladies, perhaps one of you could give me a hint how to add my photo next to my post. Where do I need to log in to do that? Thank you ! Luiza

By: ResurrectingVenus

ResurrectingVenus — Wed, 04 Dec 2013 16:23:00 +0000

In reply to Luiza. The funny thing is Luiza, I love to respond and in the beginning always did and then I started saying yes to too much and didn't have time to reply to comments. It's by saying NO to things that I don't need to be doing that I can reply to all comments here now :) "NO" POWER!

By: Luiza

Luiza — Wed, 04 Dec 2013 10:05:00 +0000

In reply to ResurrectingVenus. Hi :) This is such a delightful moment when you write back, when you comment, just knowing that you are there and say that you support opens up a channel of beautiful energy flow. Thank you for that Cynthia and thank you for creating this space for us here. It is really wonderful to be here. I wish you all the best. Luiza

By: Kim Elizabeth Dupre

Kim Elizabeth Dupre — Tue, 03 Dec 2013 19:00:00 +0000

In reply to ResurrectingVenus. Love to you Cynthia and great blessings back. Your school sounds fabulous, I wish you nothing but great success!

By: Ative Eneerg

Ative Eneerg — Tue, 03 Dec 2013 18:44:00 +0000

Gosh this is my biggest struggle saying no! I never thought so deeply into and have at times accepted the feeling if discomfort by saying yes thinking I don’t want to be selfish. This blog gives me such peace and new direction.

By: ResurrectingVenus

ResurrectingVenus — Tue, 03 Dec 2013 18:05:00 +0000

In reply to Dawn. Very good Dawn! I had that same experience when I first became aware of wanting to say no. My strategy was to NEVER say yes (unless I knew I really wanted it) until later. So I would say: I can't answer you yet, I need to look over my commitments, calendar, plan etc. I had to interrupt my hardwired pattern. Try it. Let me know how it works for you. <3

By: ResurrectingVenus

ResurrectingVenus — Tue, 03 Dec 2013 18:05:00 +0000

In reply to Luiza. Hi Lovely! You know I support you completely. :)

By: ResurrectingVenus

ResurrectingVenus — Tue, 03 Dec 2013 18:02:00 +0000

In reply to Kim Elizabeth Dupre. I completely agree Kim. It's really nice to be free. Love to you and great blessings. What a lovely gift your mother's money gave you. :)

By: Kim Elizabeth Dupre

Kim Elizabeth Dupre — Tue, 03 Dec 2013 17:04:00 +0000

“No”, what a powerful word for just two little letters. I grew up with “The Donna Reed Show”, “Father Knows Best”, and “Lassie” to name a few. Each female character in each show played a submissive role; never thinking of themselves, they lived though their families, it seemed to be their sole identity. The word “No”, seldom passed their lips and when it did it was buffered with “Let me talk to your father” or “Wait till your Father hears about this.”

I tried for too many years to conform to this empty persona. I married, had a child, attended a Pentecostal Church religiously and had dinner on the table every night at 5:00 pm. I was miserable to say the least.

When my mother passed over, she left me with 30K, not much these days, but it was enough back then for me to gain the financial support to say “NO” this is not who I am. The money was important because I was a stay at home wife and mother and I had no money to completely call my own.

I am presently coming into a new stage/awareness in my life which is pushing me to use this tiny little word, “NO” because if I do not employ its strength goals that are important to me will never happen.

As women, we all need to evoke the power of this little word a lot more often. “No” is a powerful sword that cuts through a lot of tangled untruths caught up in our beliefs about ourselves.

Namaste

By: Dawn

Dawn — Tue, 03 Dec 2013 14:32:00 +0000

Perfect timing! Sometimes with family, my two sisters specifically, I say “yes” or “I can” before I actually realize what is really happening. I get myself pulled back into some unhealthy drama between THEM. I need a repetitive plan of action to thwart this in the future because I end up feeling tricked and angry. Can you recommend a simple, effective “go to strategy” so when this happens again, I recognize it and say I CAN’T immediately? My sincere thanks!

By: Luiza

Luiza — Tue, 03 Dec 2013 12:42:00 +0000

Thank you Cynthia, this post really teaches me to listen to my inner voice, to tune in to my desires. I would not quite call it an inner voice, but rather a life-path, maybe the sense of life. Thank you again.