Comments on: My reaction to being wrongfully accused

By: svf

svf — Thu, 13 Dec 2018 20:28:21 +0000

i’ve got a BETTER/WORSE situation. I was “fired” by my Doctor with no reason mentioned nor opportunity to give my side of the “story”.
It has been extremely interesting figuring out how to handle it. First, I accepted it as a reality in my life; the same as any other accident/negative happening/tragedy/crap that randomly happens to all living people. Then trying to be true to my integrity and character I have had fun exploring different responses. Very Enlightening for Me!

By: Alice Ann Hengesbach

Alice Ann Hengesbach — Mon, 10 Mar 2014 23:05:00 +0000

Not any more. As of this writing I am 64 years old. Three years ago all by myself I decided to work on patience. One thing I MAKE myself do is to wait 24 hours before responding to ANYTHING. Even if I have to set a timer, write a note on my calendar. This intentional delay allows me to #1 breathe #2 double check my motives and #3 check out my goal. A very similar sequence put in place by the computer malfunction. I get to choose to delay and it works for me. : )

By: LisaG

LisaG — Fri, 01 Nov 2013 15:35:00 +0000

Oh my goodness, you better PREACH!! I have been in this spot and have responded negatively and it always came back to haunt me. I have since learned to slow down and not respond until I am calm. Electronics don’t lock up around me but I kind of wish they would! I am just learning to remember that I am an adult (44 years old) and that I have control over what I say and do. I don’t have to jump right away to “protect” myself. The “I’m going to get you, before you get me” attitude is getting old. The drama of it all makes me tired. Funny this is, I don’t like for people to see me “not in control” of situation. I don’t know, I’m slowly but surely working my way out of the fog.

By: Aumora

Aumora — Thu, 31 Oct 2013 04:29:00 +0000

It seems as though the retrogrades I experience similiar situations. If it isn’t lost communication by phone, computer etc., it’s lost contact and communication to people physically. I might even loose my phone. I feel as though I’m the only one that is experiencing disconnections; it can be frustrating.
I know how you felt completely because I just went through the same situation with my guy friend last night…..funny! We got in an argument over a movie disc believe it or not; and in my mind and out loud I was like, are you serious, over a movie disc. What made it so comedic now but, ofcourse not at the time, is how he started accusing me of being like people in his past and questioning my motivations and going over how genious he is and on and on and on! OMG it was so surreal.
I got real irritated and frustrated, I almost wanted to cry but I didn’t let myself. I was even more frustrated because I was getting frusrated. So for sure I definitely hit his wound and he most assuredly made sure he found mine!
Later I felt bad because it wasn’t me to react the way that I did and how I felt…accusations…I see now that I really hate that because I want people to see me the way I see myself because at that moment I cared how he viewed me and what he thought about me more then I thought about myself. Instead of trusting my authenticity within and staying in my core I allowed myself to be thrown off.
But what I do love about it is…lol…he is teaching me so much and I have to take that experience and be reminded of the bigger picture…!
Thanks for this post. 🙂

By: wheatgirl

wheatgirl — Wed, 30 Oct 2013 11:41:00 +0000

In reply to Ally N..

I so get this episode and so admire how you resolved it.
That is one of my trigger points – that perhaps I am remiss financially and am
a ‘bad child’ to be scolded. The time it took you to calm down, breathe and
handle it maturely was a short gap. I’ll aim for that next time it happens to
me. My own episode was the other day. I was parked in free parking on a street
that has a premium of parking. I was checking my email on my phone. A woman in
a van parked behind me, (I didn’t realize it right away) and honked loudly –she
wanted my spot! I shook her off with a head shake –after all, why couldn’t I
stay in ‘my’ spot and check my mail? But in a second I realized –I could easily move (even though I found
her rude), pull over up a ways a bit, give her the precious spot. So I just
shrugged inside, moved and parked elsewhere. Seconds later there was a knock on
my window and there was the woman, with a huge smile, a big thumbs up gesture
and mouthing the words: Thank you (through my window). Her smile was genuine and
appreciative and it made my day. I don’t know why I even held onto the ‘free’
spot – I don’t like being told what to do or intruded on but the truth was – it
was just about parking.

By: Ally N.

Ally N. — Tue, 29 Oct 2013 20:55:00 +0000

going through this right now, trying to figure out the answer to the riddle of why men are smitten with me, pursue me, and then leave as soon as I feel safe, questioning what is “wrong with me” that makes them leave. My gut reaction should be “what is going on with them?” and to trust in the universe that my love life is unfolding just the way it is supposed to, but I guess when there is a pattern, it gets harder and harder to remind yourself of the truth.