Comments on: Reality Check https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/reality-check/ Empower. Inspire. Heal. Mon, 01 Aug 2022 22:29:16 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0 By: Cynthia Occelli https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/reality-check/#comment-753 Thu, 17 Mar 2011 15:41:21 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=206#comment-753 In reply to Pam Masters.

I think the situations vary so much that no one can accurately judge the truth of a friendship aside from the parties within it. I tend to explain very little to people around an issue. In the vast majority of my past connections, the door remains open, but the monsters (the negative aspects of the relationship) receive no food from me. It’s amazing how starving them can almost effortlessly remove someone from your life. Endings don’t always have to be distinct, just withdrawing the fuel for the fire is often all it takes. I trust you did what you needed to and I am happy you feel free.

]]> By: Cynthia Occelli https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/reality-check/#comment-754 Thu, 17 Mar 2011 15:41:21 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=206#comment-754 In reply to Pam Masters.

I think the situations vary so much that no one can accurately judge the truth of a friendship aside from the parties within it. I tend to explain very little to people around an issue. In the vast majority of my past connections, the door remains open, but the monsters (the negative aspects of the relationship) receive no food from me. It’s amazing how starving them can almost effortlessly remove someone from your life. Endings don’t always have to be distinct, just withdrawing the fuel for the fire is often all it takes. I trust you did what you needed to and I am happy you feel free.

]]> By: Cynthia Occelli https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/reality-check/#comment-752 Thu, 17 Mar 2011 15:37:16 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=206#comment-752 In reply to Chris Jungermann.

Chris – that’s a very mature place to be. I think it’s the most difficult with children. I’m glad you are able to get rid of the negative feelings and keep the loving up with your son. Staying on our own path, even acknowledging that we have one, is a very strong step. Bless you!

]]> By: Cynthia Occelli https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/reality-check/#comment-750 Thu, 17 Mar 2011 15:34:30 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=206#comment-750 In reply to sioux.

Exactly, Elizabeth. Sending someone away in negativity isn’t sending them away at all. Forgiveness frees the forgiver. Be well 🙂

]]> By: Cynthia Occelli https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/reality-check/#comment-751 Thu, 17 Mar 2011 15:34:30 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=206#comment-751 In reply to Elizabeth Peterson.

Exactly, Elizabeth. Sending someone away in negativity isn’t sending them away at all. Forgiveness frees the forgiver. Be well 🙂

]]> By: Elizabeth Peterson https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/reality-check/#comment-749 Mon, 14 Mar 2011 04:57:09 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=206#comment-749 There are some people who just drain your energy, and you are left with nothing but the feeling of wanting to take a nap, or sleep something off…this is the time to bless
them and send them on their way…in a kind manner.  And silently wish them peace.

]]> By: Chris Jungermann https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/reality-check/#comment-747 Sat, 12 Mar 2011 19:35:55 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=206#comment-747 Getting rid of toxic people when they are "loved ones" can be really tough. I"ve had to do this twice.  Not fun.  I had to stop the energy drain.
I've been to Alanon and it really helped in a lot of ways, including with my Son.   I now appreciate him in the moment, let him know that I love him and I want him to be safe.  He has his own path and I do my best to stay on my Path of Greatest Fulfillment.
I appreciate you and all that you do.

]]> By: Chris Jungermann https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/reality-check/#comment-748 Sat, 12 Mar 2011 19:35:55 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=206#comment-748 Getting rid of toxic people when they are "loved ones" can be really tough. I"ve had to do this twice.  Not fun.  I had to stop the energy drain.
I've been to Alanon and it really helped in a lot of ways, including with my Son.   I now appreciate him in the moment, let him know that I love him and I want him to be safe.  He has his own path and I do my best to stay on my Path of Greatest Fulfillment.
I appreciate you and all that you do.

]]> By: Pam Masters https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/reality-check/#comment-745 Sat, 12 Mar 2011 16:47:23 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=206#comment-745 This is another good one, and echos a blog I wrote just a few short weeks ago, after the tough decision to remove someone from the inner circle of my life.  I did not make the decision lightly and spent much time taking each aspect of our "friendship" into account. 
I took great care in notifying her as well as others who might be upset by "MY" choice to stop her damage to my life…and then I clicked delete.  I have not regretted my decision and in fact feel like it was the best choice for me.
Many times I find people like myself who will say "if you are true friends, you would not remover her",  I simply reply "if she were a true friend she wouldn't give me cause to"
 
Thank you!

]]> By: Pam Masters https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/reality-check/#comment-746 Sat, 12 Mar 2011 16:47:23 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=206#comment-746 This is another good one, and echos a blog I wrote just a few short weeks ago, after the tough decision to remove someone from the inner circle of my life.  I did not make the decision lightly and spent much time taking each aspect of our "friendship" into account. 
I took great care in notifying her as well as others who might be upset by "MY" choice to stop her damage to my life…and then I clicked delete.  I have not regretted my decision and in fact feel like it was the best choice for me.
Many times I find people like myself who will say "if you are true friends, you would not remover her",  I simply reply "if she were a true friend she wouldn't give me cause to"
 
Thank you!

]]> By: Cynthia Occelli https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/reality-check/#comment-744 Mon, 04 Oct 2010 17:54:06 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=206#comment-744 In reply to Bobbi Linkemer.

Hi Bobbi:

I am humbled by your comment and honored that you took the time to write it.

Thank you,

Cynthia

]]> By: Bobbi Linkemer https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/reality-check/#comment-742 Sun, 03 Oct 2010 17:48:40 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=206#comment-742 You are featured in BlogCatalog and I was intrigued enough to follow the links to your blog. You are an amazing, inspirational young woman (which means I'm not so young) and I think you are making a difference in this world. Thank you for sharing your story with so many people. It is at such times that the Internet shines. It's people like you who make it so.

]]> By: Bobbi Linkemer https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/reality-check/#comment-743 Sun, 03 Oct 2010 17:48:40 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=206#comment-743 You are featured in BlogCatalog and I was intrigued enough to follow the links to your blog. You are an amazing, inspirational young woman (which means I'm not so young) and I think you are making a difference in this world. Thank you for sharing your story with so many people. It is at such times that the Internet shines. It's people like you who make it so.

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