Laura!

What a teacher he was. THANK GOD you are an awake, aware and eager learner. Your experience was wrenching to live through, I imagine. I am SO grateful you got through it with yourself and your life in tact and ready to LIVE.

Bless you.

Cynthia

You are so very much right on target. I wish I had understood this compromise issue about seven years ago. I fell madly in love with a man who swept me off my feet. I learned so many wonderful things from him, but after a few months I realized everything was one-sided. Nothing that mattered to me was even remotely in his realm of desire. One day I asked him if we could compromise on an issue. It was an insignificant issue, but his reaction shocked and appalled me. He state very emphatically “I never compromise on anything.” If you don’t like it–there’s the door. I laughed and brushed it off because the door he was referring to was the front door of my house. Unfortunately, I didn’t take the very large hint and spent the next five years losing myself one big step at a time. He walked out on me eventually (thank all that is loving!) and it took me a while to get my antenna pointed back in the right direction. Looking back now I can’t even understand why I let that statement pass, let alone why I stuck around for so much longer. The one thing I can be grateful for is that the experience has shown me exactly how valuable I am and that I will never settle for anything but true, genuine love and regard from a partner again. A relationship may never be balanced, but it should always be a partnership with give and take. Thank you for your wonderful messages.
Laura