Comments on: Think you’re a good lover? Not if you don’t do this.

By: JLaine

JLaine — Thu, 10 Oct 2013 20:45:00 +0000

Beautiful and inspiring, as always! Thanks, Cynthia!

By: Tony

Tony — Tue, 03 Aug 2010 06:38:47 +0000

I believe it strikes at the heart, where it needs to be. In the now, knowing that "loss is not goodbye; it is farewell for now."Thank you for clarifying what I misread. it makes, all the difference in the world. You have such dazzling gifts. Each a nugget of life changing wisdom. Thank you for sharing your love with us.Tony

By: Tony

Tony — Tue, 03 Aug 2010 06:38:47 +0000

By: Cynthia Occelli

Cynthia Occelli — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 06:16:40 +0000

Hi Tony:Your re-quote is a little off. I wrote,"Loss need be no more than an event you know is possible, it might happen, but the NOW? It's happening at all time."What I meant is the NOW is a sure thing; it's here right now and you have it. The loss is only a possibility. We mustn't dwell on it unless or until it occurs.We have no way of knowing what will happen. You may leave this life before anyone else, you and the people you care about may leave it together and yes, someone may leave it before you.Dwelling on the potential for loss is like paying interest on money you haven't borrowed. The ways I cope with my fears of loss are (mind you these are purely my personal beliefs):1) I don't borrow crisis. (Described above)2) I know that energy is never extinguished, it simply changes form. I do not believe in death.3) I am not afraid of "death". I feel deeply connected to a higher power and I trust in the rightness of all things (when viewed from a high enough altitude).4) I know that, should a loss occur, I will survive and find peace again. I learned this by living it.5) I attempt to max out my loving so that I have no regrets.6) I know that loss is not goodbye; it is farewell for now.This has to be enough for me. I'm still human and it isn't perfect, but it helps.Tell me how this strikes you.<3Cynthia

By: Cynthia Occelli

Cynthia Occelli — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 06:16:40 +0000

By: tony

tony — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 04:22:14 +0000

Cynthia,Thank you for your insight and sharing this different way of viewing loss and the various characters within :)What you said is deep and powerful advice. "Take THIS OPPORTUNITY to turn the volume of love in your NOW way up" + "expressing your feelings …..enriches the NOW. "I'm confused about the following:"Loss need to be no more than an event you know is possible. It's happening all the time."I feel like there's some deeper meaning in this that I don't necessarily get. . Some losses are going to occur. It's comforting to know they are a possible event, though it seems like a band aid to fear. Is there a particular way that you are that you don't even need the "band aid?"

By: tony

tony — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 04:22:14 +0000

By: Cynthia Occelli

Cynthia Occelli — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 23:24:39 +0000

Tony:You express yourself so beautifully. The inner conversation you are having comes from fear of loss, but I offer you another way of looking at it. Expressing your feelings toward those you love enriches the NOW. Loss need be no more than an event you know is possible, it might happen, but the NOW? It's happening at all time. Take this opportunity to turn the volume of love in your NOW way up.Thank you for being so open. <3Cynthia

By: Cynthia Occelli

Cynthia Occelli — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 23:24:39 +0000

By: Cormel

Cormel — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 17:20:00 +0000

thank's for the sharing.very good…

By: Cormel

Cormel — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 17:20:00 +0000

thank's for the sharing.very good…

By: tony berkman

tony berkman — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 08:15:21 +0000

It's a difficult post to read, not because Cynthia has written words that aren't easy to understand. When the truth hits so close to home, and a light is shone on our greatest fears, I, like so many others, want to turn away. I wan't to turn away from these powerful words, and not read them, for fear that I may not do the very thing Cynthia so clearly warns me about.Despite knowing the immense pain I may cause myself, and the poignant truth contained herein, a voice says, "Tony, this isn't your life, this won't happen to you. Yet a quieter voice, quickly jumps in and says "you know you aren't exempt." Faster still, a voice answers, "I'm scared, it means facing the reality of death right in the face" The all powerful voice of reason, so certain, so confident, takes charge and says "do it later. You're busy. There's time. You have more important things to do." Another voice screams, though barely makes a sound. "Really, Tony? More important things?" I know the answer. I pretend not to hear. I continue doing "these more important things." Pushing the thought "that that later may never come" as deep within my mind as I can.

By: tony berkman

tony berkman — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 08:15:21 +0000

By: Cynthia Occelli

Cynthia Occelli — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 17:40:16 +0000

livelovespeakThanks for chiming in.Much love to you,Cynthia

By: Cynthia Occelli

Cynthia Occelli — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 17:40:16 +0000

livelovespeakThanks for chiming in.Much love to you,Cynthia

By: livelovespeak

livelovespeak — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 08:44:50 +0000

This is beautiful and I feel the exact same way. Faith is a beautiful thing to have and takes us to extreme lengths in our journeys <3

By: livelovespeak

livelovespeak — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 08:44:50 +0000

This is beautiful and I feel the exact same way. Faith is a beautiful thing to have and takes us to extreme lengths in our journeys <3

By: Cynthia Occelli

Cynthia Occelli — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 17:11:30 +0000

Hello LionGirl:Exactly. You're a bold soul.Cynthia

By: Cynthia Occelli

Cynthia Occelli — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 17:11:30 +0000

Hello LionGirl:Exactly. You're a bold soul.Cynthia

By: Cynthia Occelli

Cynthia Occelli — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 17:10:44 +0000

Dear Shorter:Very good point. Cynthia