Comments on: To All the Single Ladies https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/to-all-the-single-ladies/ Empower. Inspire. Heal. Mon, 01 Aug 2022 22:03:20 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0 By: Cynthia Occelli https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/to-all-the-single-ladies/#comment-1505 Sun, 18 Mar 2012 06:44:41 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=2535#comment-1505 In reply to Michael Taylor.

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]]> By: Michael Taylor https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/to-all-the-single-ladies/#comment-1504 Sun, 18 Mar 2012 02:22:19 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=2535#comment-1504 Contrary to popular belief most men are capable of creating emotionally open, authentic and intimate connections with women. The challenge is for men to be courageous enough to break through the media generated stereotypes of what it means to be a real man.

All men really want the same thing, they want to be loved, appreciated and to feel as if they matter to their women. We definitely have feelings and the ability to express them.

We are not the sex crazed, materialistic neanderthals that the media portrays us to be.

]]> By: Cynthia Occelli https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/to-all-the-single-ladies/#comment-1503 Mon, 29 Aug 2011 16:55:53 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=2535#comment-1503 In reply to Alyson Thiessen.

Alyson – I’m on board with you. My thoughts sum up as: Love thyself first. Part of loving thyself is being healthy, not unnaturally so, but healthy.

]]> By: Alyson Thiessen https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/to-all-the-single-ladies/#comment-1502 Fri, 26 Aug 2011 19:32:58 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=2535#comment-1502 Thank you for this post. It confirms a lot of my musings and thoughts about attraction and relationships over the past year. I firmly believe that women are marginalizing themselves by dieting to be a size that they aren't naturally. Here is my philosophy:
Be who you are and be it well. If you are a size 18, embrace it and believe me, there are men who LOVE this shape….they will line up to have time with you.

The flip side of this is this.  If you are a size 2 and this is your natural weight…GREAT! Be that. There are plenty of men wanting to line up for you as well.

Women get into trouble when they want to be anything but themselves. I am a large, 6 foot, size 16-18 woman. Always have been. Always will be. I diet from time to time for my health and to stay a 16-18. I exercise…and try to stay active. I have no desire to get down to even a size 8. MY partner has begged me to stay the way I am. HE LOVES MY BODY> He loves my curves, he loves my rolls….but most of all, he loves my heart and soul.
Love thyself is my motto. That is where all goodness starts.

]]> By: Cynthia Occelli https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/to-all-the-single-ladies/#comment-1501 Thu, 25 Aug 2011 14:58:16 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=2535#comment-1501 In reply to Anonymous.

Hi Carol -I do not disagree that physical attraction matters. I cannot take issue with men however, because the qualities that define natural physical beauty: a healthy weight, good health and hygiene, are the same qualities that make a woman medically healthier and her life happier. Men do not mind a few extra pounds, neither does a doctor. Yet they both respond negatively when a few turns to a few dozen.

In my view, the woman’s response is what matters. Women should want better for themselves. A woman should encourage and enhance her natural beauty for herself, not for a man. It is a statement of self-value, self-appreciation and self-love. Love is a verb, something one does. Before a woman ventures into romance, an endeavor which calls on her ability to love, she must love herself. Settling for an unhealthful weight, (or other things like smoking, alcohol abuse, drugs, etc.) is not loving oneself.These same ideas apply to men.

We’re having a discussion about this on my facebook page http://www.facebook.com/LIFEblog

Come join in!

]]> By: Anonymous https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/to-all-the-single-ladies/#comment-1500 Fri, 19 Aug 2011 15:24:44 +0000 https://thebeautifullifeschool.com/?p=2535#comment-1500 I know lots of men who are very emotionally in tune with themselves and extremely articulate about their feelings. They are good guys and say the same type of things as the men in your comments. However,  these same men also want women they are sexually attracted to. They want women to have great figures, look stunning etc. as well as confident etc.  I never see them go up to a women in a bar who is overweight and start chatting her up with the intention of dating her, or to find her inner beauty. I don't see them dating someone they consider sexually unatrratctive because they have a great personality. Sorry but it seems to me that when all is said and done women have an incredible amount of pressure put on them. Look at all the research that indicates that a more attractive women will get ahead in business more than her unattractive colleague. Sorry but this makes me very cross. I have a lot of male friends and they are great guys but how you look and what your figure is like plays an important part for them. 

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