Yesterday, I wrote about looking over the past year and decade to collect information about all the wonderful and not so wonderful experiences (read it here: Preparing to Harvest). If you haven’t had the time to do this yet, no worries.

Once you’re clear on the past, it’s time to take responsibility for it, all of it.  This doesn’t mean to blame yourself.  It does mean to stop blaming others.  

Blame is a nasty trickster.  It leads us to believe that we’re helpless, victims* with no control over anything. It comforts us by insisting that we do the best we can, and can do no better. Whatever it is, it’s not our fault.

The problem is a victim can’t create, build or have any power.  A victim lives at the mercy of everything.  Blame binds them to powerlessness.

When turned on the self, blame convinces us that we’re worthless, inferior and hopeless.  If only we hadn’t done, said or tried ______________. 

Making mistakes is part of life and life is for living.  Blame blame for being a jerk and ban it from your mental house.

Take responsibility for the triumphs and failures of the past.  Own it all. 

When you believe that you are responsible for the state of your life, you’ll have the power to change it.

*For the people who routinely lose brain cells whenever I say victim, this post does not apply to victims of crime or abuse. (I just can’t imagine anyone going there, but it happens.)

~ Cynthia